Thursday, July 19, 2012

The Day My Baby Stopped Sleeping.

 Harper used to be a rockstar sleeper. We would put her to bed wide awake around 8:30-9pm, and she would sleep soundly until 5 am. Some days she would even sleep until 7 am. Once she started busting out of her swaddle, right around 4 months, we stopped swaddling her and started using sleep sacks instead. Still slept like a champ.


 Then one night around 1:00 am, I woke up to her making noise, looked over and I see THIS.

"What's up mama. I don't like sleeping anymore!"

And she wasn't kidding. Since that random night, nothing changing in her bedtime routine or sleeping environment, my kid stopped sleeping.Since she started rolling over and trying to sit up, we have since taken her out of the Nap Nanny as well. This causes her to wake up in the middle of the night, fling her paci out of her pack n play and onto the floor, and then lift her legs and SLAM them down on the mattress eight hundred times.. over... and over... and over... and over. We wake up and as soon as she sees us, she starts to laugh. Hilariously cute... but frustrating nonetheless.

Her bedtime routine looks like this:
8:30 pm - Bath, using lavender-this-smell-makes-you-sleepy scented bath wash
8:45 pm - Bottle, 8 oz. while being rocked in the glider
9:00 pm - bed, flat on back wearing a sleep sack, room temp at 73, fan on, dark room & noise maker

Putting her down isn't even the hard part, she usually still goes right to sleep. It's the middle of the night shitshow that we are struggling with. I typically end up feeding her once around 3:30-4 when she eventually starts crying her eyes out. But she literally won't sleep for more than a solid two hours anymore. And she typically takes a 45-90 min. nap in mid morning and another in late afternoon for about an hour and a half to two hours.

If you haven't read the book "Go The F*ck to Sleep"... it's funny business. You must check it out! And NO, I don't actually read it to her.

Suggestions are WELCOME! But otherwise, just here to vent. Luckily I actually survive okay on little sleep.. so it could be worse. Just wanted to share my experience, to let all you mama's know that you're not alone & motherhood is not perfect... although pretty close.

In fact, her lack of sleep, which has lead to my lack of sleep and therefore my brain capacity to run at half mass.... caused me to take her car seat out of the stroller BEFORE detaching my diaper bag straps from the handle bar, causing my full $3.70 Venti iced coffee to go flying across the parking lot.

  It's a good thing my sweet, sweet baby cannot understand curse words yet.

117 comments:

  1. ugh i hate to hear that! So sorry love I'm hoping that doesn't happen to Ava but our little lady still wakes up twice a night to feed and let me saying putting her down to sleep is comedy hour. Im the worse when letting her learn to sleep soothe so Im running up and down the stairs several times before she final nods off. Hopefully this is just a stage...maybe teething?! And shell be back to her old routine soon. Good luck girl...your not alone xo

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  2. My son did this as well and boy was it rough. I am sorry and I hope it gets better. And spilled starbucks is the worst!

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  3. Have you read the book On Becoming Babywise?
    I remember it talking about the 45 minute intruder or something like that and talking about how often at a certain point (8 weeks? 11 weeks? I don't remember) there is a mysterious intruder that starts to show up and interrupt baby's sleep.
    If that's not it the book in general may offer some ideas as to what needs to be changed to help her sleep through the night again. Maybe try removing or shortening one of her day time naps?
    either way, good luck! Hope she starts sleep through the night again soon!

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  4. We had the worst trouble with our son, who for the first 2 months of his life partied at night & hardly slept during the day. (still don't know how he managed that schedule!) He just turned one, but here's what we did that seemed to work for him. He slept in his own room, starting right around 4 months, and would wake up at night and fall back asleep on his own. We did what do- bath, bottle, & we actually swaddled him until just 3 months ago because that's what worked for him! We used Dwell Studio recieving blankets because they are bigger than other ones. He also sleeps with classical music & loves it. Hope something helps- hang in there!

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  5. Sleeping through the night is a sham and overrated. It is the great secret of motherhood so don't fall into the trap of my baby isn't normal if it doesn't STTN. What I've learned in 2 yrs of NOT sleeping through the night. 1) your body will get used to sleeping in smaller chunks of time 2) NOTHING you did or didn't do caused this to happen, in fact is very common for babies going through developmental changes (sitting up for example), teething, growth spurts to suddenly begin waking up in the middle of the night 3) baby may actually be hungry in the middle of the night 4)yes it sucks but this too shall pass 5) the more crazy stuff you try to do to get her to sleep will probably just waste even more energy, your energy 6)if you are still breastfeeding, consider safe cosleeping as an option for YOU to get more sleep so that you can actually function. 7)be flexible because as soon as things are normal its all going to change again. 8)12 months of age, coming up, is a prime time for night waking to resurface, so get ready for that 9) Pedi may tell you baby doesn't need bottle/nurse/eat in the middle of the night, but hey if it gets baby to sleep..take what works for you and leave the rest. 10) Venting about your no-sleep situation usually ends up in terrible advice so watch out! HTH

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    1. I have been going through a hard time trying to figure out how to get my kid to sleep through the night since he has been suddenly waking up every hour. Thank you for this comment, there are not enough moms out there that will say this and it truly does make us new moms feel better.

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    2. Amen to that!

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  6. Even though it's a pain to be up all night long, that is the cutest face to be waking up to!

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  7. Sounds like the 4 month sleep regression! Their sleep cycles change so they wake up more and need to learn to go back to sleep on their own. This happens to my son around 4 months. Before then he'd only get up once a night. But then he was waking up every 2-3 hours. He's now 8 months and we have just started to recover :(

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  8. I wish I have a stellar advice to share, but I don't seeing that I am still pregnant with my boy! I'm definitely looking forward to your follow-up post about how to get your baby to sleep!

    PS: Harper is just so beautiful.

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  9. Sorry the rough time! I hear ya on those sleepless nights! I breastfeed and co-sleep tho so it does help me and my little one get more sleep. Hopefully Harper will become a sleeping champ again once she masters sitting up and some other developmental milestones. Just keep remembering "it won't last forever" "this is just another phase" Keep up the good work momma!!

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  10. Four months until we sleep trained our daughter using the Ferber method at nine months was terrible. Even if you don't plan to use the Ferber method, I might suggest reading his book, or Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child just to get some tips and information about babies' sleep habits.

    Lots of kiddos go through a sleep regression around four months, and in general when they are learning new skills and such. Have you heard of wonder weeks? Maybe try googling that for something other information.

    Wish I could be of more help, if you ever get to the point where you think the Ferber method is necessary (I know lots of people are against it, but it worked for us) I have a few blog posts about when we went through it with my daughter. Good luck!

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  11. Not sure where she sleeps, but I got a mattress for my pack n play and my baby has slept much better since. She seems more comfortable and it was only $30 on Amazon.

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  12. Ah. Four month sleep regression.

    I did a lot of reading when we hit this patch and I know this sounds TOTALLY BACKWARDS, but try putting her down earlier. My kid goes to bed at 7 and sleeps until 6. If they are going to bed too late they get overtired and have a hard time staying asleep. Good luck!

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  13. I think I accidently deleted my previous comment so if you get two similar posts, I apologize. This post made me laugh out loud. Motherhood is not perfect. I can't bring myself to actually read "Go the F*** to Sleep" to my babe but I think about that book often. My son, Gavin is 4.5 months, and at his best he will go down between 8 & 10 and wake up to eat once between 3 & 6 and then go back to sleep until anywhere between 9&11. That was at his best though. Last night...we were up every 3 hours. So many moms brag about their kids sleeping through the night. I personally think they are lying and omitting telling all the nights when their kids were up every few hours. No one wants to talk about those nights, so kudos to you for putting it out there because we have all been there. From what I understand, kids go through great and not so great sleep patterns. Hang in there & just keep refilling that Starbucks girl. Know that you're not alone:)

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  14. I'm right there with you. My 4 month old was going 6+ hours a night. Now I'm lucky if I get 3 :/ it's cool my three year old didn't sleep all night until after she was two..and my almost 5 year old was my only champ! That girl has slept all night since 6 weeks!!

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  15. Happened to us too. I credit Healthy sleep habits, happy child for saving our bums. So helpful. Also, are you breastfeeding? Maybe it's the caffeine hitting her system later? That happened to me and coke...I had to cut back for awhile. :( Which definitely didn't help during the sleepless nights/days. good luck!

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  16. Oh girl I feel for you! My little man was the exact same way. If you get the baby channel it plays really trippy things during the late night that may stimulate her little mind to the point where she just has to go back to sleep.
    When Max kept waking up at night I fed him more oatmeal during dinner. He still woke up at night, but he did sleep for longer. Another mom suggested to me that it could be early signs of teething that were messing up the schedule. Have you felt around in her mouth for any signs of teeth? If so, you could pop some night-time Oragel in there and she will be out in no time :)

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  17. My little boy, now 3 and a half, didn't give us a whole nights sleep until he was nearly 3 (with my daughter it was way earlier). All children are different and what may work for us, may not work for you. At four month they're still small, they're still growing and my son needed eating each night for a loooong time. We put him to bed at 7, no later than 7.30, he woke up anything between midnight and 5 and got up for the day around 7. Two naps during the day until he was around a year, then down to one nap after lunch.
    They're babies, each day will be different. You'll be fine, it will soon change again, and again, and again.
    The best of luck to you :)

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  18. Like a previous commenter mentioned, try putting her down earlier. Sounds counter-intuitive but it works!

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  19. Ugh hates days like. I def feel your pain but Harper is still a much better sleeper than many babies I know and still at her age has slept better than mine ever did.
    IT could be that she is hitting some milestones. Sounds like teething could also be around the corner. Elle cut her first one at 6 months.
    Hang in there and that is the beauty of little ones just as soon as you feel you get it "down" boom...the shitstorm does strike in full force and its a whole new game.
    Hugs,
    Heidi

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  20. Let me know what you find out -- my peanut is 8.5 months and usually wakes up at 330-4, ready to play.. I feel your pain with your lack of sleep and loss of coffee..

    Ps - Please Go the F*ck to Sleep.. Too funny.

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  21. You are too funny! I loved this post, seriously cracking up! I hope your sweet little night owl gets better at her sleep schedule, and you can get some sleep :) I LOVE YOU POSTING SO QUICKLY ALSO! I was on Facebook scrolling through, and i got back to the boring crap i already read, and i was like hmmmm, maybe i'll see if she posted something, AND YOU DID! Seriously made my night :)

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  22. I agree with some of the above ... it sounds like the 4 month sleep regression! We also moved Emmie into her own room around then because she started sleeping better. The same way I would wake up when I heard her moving she would hear me moving and wake up. Once she was in her crib it got better.

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  23. I agree with some of the above ... it sounds like the 4 month sleep regression! We also moved Emmie into her own room around then because she started sleeping better. The same way I would wake up when I heard her moving she would hear me moving and wake up. Once she was in her crib it got better.

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  24. its completely normal for her to go from sleeping through the night to waking every few hours. my little one went through plenty of this. there are tons of things changing in her little body between growth spurts and possible teething. it will get better:)

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  25. I read Babywise and live by it, my daughter was on a strict scheduler and it was the best thing ever. I would highly recommend it and live by it. at 5 months we did the ferber method of crying it out, took 2 1/2 nights and she has been sleeping through the night ever sense.

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  26. I just finished reading this book "The Happiest Baby On The Block", you've probably heard of it, or maybe even read it, but it's written by a highly recommended doctor. It talks about the need for a "fourth trimester" & gives you hundreds of ideas to help your baby sleep in the first year. It does base a lot of the information geared toward the first 4 months, but it also has a lot of helpful information beyond that as well. Mainly swaddling, swinging, shushing in their ear, white noise, cuddling, sucking breast/pacifier/bottle. Hope that helps a little, if anything just skim through the book :)

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  27. I read Babywise and live by it, my daughter was on a strict scheduler and it was the best thing ever. I would highly recommend it and live by it. at 5 months we did the ferber method of crying it out, took 2 1/2 nights and she has been sleeping through the night ever sense. (unless sick) she is now 18 months and sleeps from 7:30-7am. Its the best thing ever and I will have all my babies on a schedule because its so wonderful.

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  28. I read Babywise and live by it, my daughter was on a strict scheduler and it was the best thing ever. I would highly recommend it and live by it. at 5 months we did the ferber method of crying it out, took 2 1/2 nights and she has been sleeping through the night ever sense.

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  29. I feel like we do a lot of the same things. I have a 11 month old. He wakes every day between 7:30-8:00 am. We have breakfast and play until 10:00-10:30 am than he takes a nap until noon. We have lunch, play, run errands and than he naps again around 3 or 4 (and usually sleeps 2 hours). We have dinner, play, bath, read, and I feed him a bottle and rock in a glider and put him to bed usually by 9 pm. My little guy only wakes up in the middle in the night when a new tooth is coming in. We now have 8 teeth! When he wakes up in the middle of the night, I usually pick him up and rock him and he falls back to sleep if he does not fall asleep than I usually feed a 4 oz bottle. I feel you on the Starbucks and the lack of sleep and losing your mind sometimes! I think Harper is adorable and you are good mother! Love your photos on Instagram! We follow eachother!

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  30. I wonder if she might be uncomfy in the PNP, but sounds like classic 4 mo sleep regression for sure.

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  31. Your not alone! My little girl is 3 days younger than yours and she did the exact same thing!! Slept from 10-7 every night from 6 weeks-4 months! Exactly at 4 months she now wakes me up at 4 in the morning! I went from the swaddle to the sleep sack as well and have yet to find the trick!! I have changed temp in the house thinking its too hot/cold and tried all different sleeping outfits! When you find the trick please share :)

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  32. Our little girl did this too but closer to 3 months. Turns out, she ONLY sleeps on her tummy. It was scary at first because "they" say not to do it but she slept so peacefully and now she is 5 months and able to lift her head up and scoot around so it's not as much of a concern. Worth a shot!

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  33. I will be a FTM in October and I've been reading The Sleep Lady Good Night Sleep Tight. Its a super easy read and you can start her "plan" at any age and it gives very helpful soothing tips as well.

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  34. aww you're doing great momma!
    Just love those cheeks on that little girl of yours!

    http://allthingsprettyandlittle.blogspot.com/

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  35. I have 2 boys (2&3....yes my house is insane). My oldest was an awesome sleeper two naps to bed at 8:30-9:00 and slept until 7!!!! Always! My youngest was horrible (he's lucky he's cute ;) ) he didn't sleep through the night until 10months I think I cried everyday but I couldn't do the cry it out thing, luckily after I would feed him he would go straight back to sleep! So I often had to adjust his schedule! I know you said she's on 2 naps (which is what I did too). But maybe try making her afternoon nap earlier say 1pm and make sure she is up by 3:30-4:00 and then bed by 8:00 or if you want her bedtime later let her take a quick cat nap somewhere. She should be able to stay awake for 4 hrs or so and believe me witching hour was and still is 4:30 sharp BUT a full nights sleep is worth it! I know people say don't wake a sleeping baby but I always woke them from a nap (but not from their night sleep) oh and depending on your level if comfort I slept all my babies on their bellies...gasp....it was the only way they would sleep (yes I am the one who gave my kids baby cereal at 2 months too)! Sometimes you go into survival mode and they were both 2 months old, strong, healthy babies! Good luck :)

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  36. I was just reading on another blog, that the momma bought a sound machine with white noise and that has helped her baby sleep... It might be worth a try! Good Luck!

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  37. My second little boy just turned five months old. I never drank coffee before him. Now the baristas in the drive-thru finish my order before I can get the whole thing out of my mouth. For real. I would have cried my eyes out if my coffee spilled because it's the ONE piece of sanity I have in my day! He has never slept through the night. Not one single time. In five months. He sleeps for four hours at a stretch AT MOST. Generally, from 9:30 to 1:30, then is up every hour and a half until morning. Trust me- you can live without sleeping. As long as you have coffee!!

    Here's hoping we sleep again one day!

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  38. Off topic but are you breastfeeding? Or exclusively pumping? And if so what breast pump are you using?! My son stop taking my breast and I've been pumping nonstop I really don't want to give him formula!

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  39. LMAO!!! I have so been there 100 times over. I promise it gets better. I would look at what worked before, for her sleeping pattern. Maybe go back to it on a lesser scale? It's all about trial and error.

    LOVE the book!! I so have to find that!!! Just that little page made me crack up.

    Sorry about the coffee spill. That would piss me off too, considering how much you pay for those drinks. Keep your head up!!! It will get better.

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  40. My daughter slept in a pack in play for the longest time just because it was easier and she randomly started waking up at night. my mom told me it would be like sleeping in a tent for however long its fun for a little while but over time its not as comfortable. Maybe try putting a eggshell pad in it under a sheet?

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  41. We had a rough rough rough time with our daughter. She basically didn't sleep the first 4.5 months of her life. Daytime naps were almost non-existent unless we held her, and she would wake up every 1-2 hours through the night. I sleep trained with The Sleep Easy Solution and highly recommend it to anyone that is having trouble. And of course it doesn't last forever but it is tough while it lasts. Just keep doing what you're doing!

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  42. Both my kiddos have been like that as well and this is what worked for us. Moving them to their own room and letting them cry it out for a day or two equaled great sleeping habits again1 ;) Good luck!

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  43. I'm having the saaaaaame thing happen with my darling daughter Imogen. She was born just a day after your little Harper. We were on a pretty similar schedule and nothing changed in her sleep cycle or our routines. Then one night about two weeks ago she suddenly started waking up every 1-2 hours to eat at least, so I have some terrible sleep patterns, and about every other night she'll wake up and start making crazy noises and want to play. It has begun to drive me a little batty with the serious lack of quality sleep. I know this will pass eventually and I love my little girl like crazy, but man, sometimes I just want to scream a little! I'm absolutely miserable without sleep. :) Thankfully babies are totally adorable and each smile makes up for every lost minute of sleep!

    http://luamour.wordpress.com

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  44. Instead of feeding her at night, I suggest just letting her cry it out. I know you probably feel like a bad mommy and you think your starving her.. but you have to let her cry it out so she learns to fall back asleep and realize she isn't really that hungry. In a week or so, I guarantee she starts sleeping the whole night.

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  45. My Ruby does this, but for naps. There is no napping in this house. In fact, you can peacefully swaddle her up and she won't protest. However, no matter how much rocking/swaying/bouncing on the yoga ball you do with her, she will hold her eyes open as wide as she can and not blink. On purpose.

    I need Go the F*ck to Sleep.

    Also, we have that same sleep sack.

    =)

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  46. Oh did this make me laugh. When you talk about curse words, I lose it!

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  47. I learned that babies grow in their sleep (weird, right?) Anyway, it may be a phase and you and your husband should decide how long you want to put up with it. How long you think H needs to work through it. (I typically gave O 10 days if I thought she was growing, teething, or in a funk.)

    Then you just have to be "mean mom" and let her cry (if you want it to stop, again up to you and your family, what you decide to do...) It use to take O 2 to 5 days to figure out we were done. I reminded myself that she was fed, warm, and safe... and that sleep was as important to her as healthy food, and love. We ALL need sleep.

    Anyway, just some advice... she could be needing more food because she is growing. She could be testing her boundaries. She could also just be doing one of those baby-please-tell-me-what-the-hell-you-need-because-I-really-don't-know things...

    Good Luck, and chin up. You are not alone!!!

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  48. Read "healthy sleep habits, happy child". I have friends that rave about this book. As babies become 4-5 months old they start doing things at night....milestones, rolling over, stomping feet etc. this book explains that as well as naps etc. good luck. I'm due in feb do its nice to follow someone that had a baby the same time I'm due!

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  49. I second Healthy sleep habits happy child. Also cutting back on caffeine! :-)

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  50. Read "healthy sleep habits, happy child". I have friends that rave about this book. As babies become 4-5 months old they start doing things at night....milestones, rolling over, stomping feet etc. this book explains that as well as naps etc. good luck. I'm due in feb do its nice to follow someone that had a baby the same time I'm due!

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  51. I'm not an expert but sounds like the dreaded 4 month old sleep regression. Check out The Baby Sleep Site. It saved my life and taught me so much about baby sleep...especially because every baby is different and everyone parents differently. Good luck!

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  52. I'm not an expert but it sounds like the dreaded 4 month old sleep regression. Check out The Baby Sleep Site for more information on sleep regressions and tons of other great things to know about sleep. It saved my life when my kiddo when through it. It's such a great site because it recognizes that every baby and family is different. Good luck!

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  53. Oh, I feel your pain. Our little one isn't sleeping through the night yet and it's SO hard. I miss sleep! Hope things improve soon!

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  54. WE've been there twice! (And will be there again soon). I agree with the other girls: 4 month sleep regression. With my son, this is when we started introducing rice cereal with a little creamed carrots (or a veggie that wouldnt cause gas) at dinner. Even though she is falling asleep fine, she might need something extra to keep her asleep. Hope you find something that works!

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  55. Try dropping her morning nap, and moving the late afternoon nap to early afternoon. It may be tough at first for her, but she'll eventually get used to the new schedule, and sleep time at night should be restored. This happened with both of my daughters. They just were ready to transition into the one "good" nap a day phase.
    Good Luck to you and Harper!

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  56. What time is her late afternoon nap? I use to let my son sleep until 7pm, but i quickly learned that is NOT ok if I want to sleep at night. Have you tried just letting her play and maybe fall back asleep, like only get up {or let her know you're awake} when she starts crying. If my son would start crying, I tried just patting him on the back until he settled back down, unless I felt he was actually hungry.
    Hope those helped, you're doing a great job as Harper's mommy!

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  57. Does she sleep in your room? If so, maybe try moving her to her own room. When i moved my son at only 8 wks he started sleeping 6-7 hrs, i was told they can smell you and makes them want to eat. Just a thought :) Good luck!

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  58. I can totally relate! I have twin girls the same age as yours and the past month they have been waking in the night. They are usually champ sleepers too! We blame it on teething. We just get up, feed them a little and they are back in snoozeville, if not, we put them back to bed awake and they usually drift off. We will get through it!

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  59. I can totally relate! We have twin girls the same age as Harper that have been waking in the night the past month. They are usually champ sleepers too. We have been blaming it on teething. We just wake with them, feed them a little and they normally go back to sleep, otherwise we put them back in their cribs awake and they normally drift off. Hang in there, we'll get through it =)

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  60. I didn't read all the comments, so I am not sure what has been suggested yet. From what I can tell, little Harper might be going to bed too late. You should start to gradually push up her bedtime to 6:30 or 7:00 p.m. (maybe start with 15 min increments) until you reach that goal. I don't know why, but the earlier you put babies to sleep, the longer and better they sleep. My little girl is 18 months old and her bedtime is still between 6:30-7:00. She consistently sleeps until 6:00-7:00 (today it was 7:30) and hasn't woken in the middle of the night since she was about 9 months old. She also takes two naps a day which vary from 1 hour to 2 hours.

    Also, it might be time to put her in her own room in her crib. All babies are different, but my girl always slept best in her crib and we moved her there at 5 weeks old. I am currently due in November with #2 and we will probably put her in her crib the night she gets home from the hospital!

    Best of luck! You're doing a great job, mama!

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  61. We used the Ferber Method on our daughter Sophia. She was a great sleeper but then something changed. She couldn't get back to sleep in the middle of the night and once we tried this she is now the most amazing sleeper. She sleeps 7pm to 6:45 sometimes 7am and then naps from 12-3:30. The ferber method helped her put herself back to sleep in the middle of the night.

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  62. Babies sleep patterns change so much the first year I think due to teething. Sounds like to me she is starting to teeth!!!!!! and they teeth FOR FREAKING FOREVER before a damn tooth eventually pops up which will probably be somewhere between 6-8 months!! All I can suggest is giving her some infants tylenol or infants advil when she wakes up, maybe she's hurting from teething. My boys lived on that stuff the whole time they teethed, I gave it to them sometimes twice a day!! From here on out till she's about one she will have iregular sleep patterns, just sucks!!!!!!!! :( right when you were feeling human again and getting some sleep it's starts all over again like they are newborn!! :( ugh!!!!!!!!! hang in there! she sure is adorable though!! :)

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  63. We read Bringing Up Baby and followed along the sleep tips and Georgiana has been sleeping through the night since 6 weeks. She will wake at 630 eat and go to sleep til 11 or so. Clever read not an instructional book :)

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  64. I agree about the earlier bedtime! The author of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child stresses that this is the solution to most sleep issues. I was skeptical, especially because my husband sometimes gets home after Brody's in bed, but it works!!!

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  65. Hey there, is she still in your room?
    Something I found with my daughter was she would wake up in the night a lot. It was just a matter of her teaching herself to fall back asleep. If she is in your room, try separation. So she wakes up and babbles herself back to sleep without ever seeing you and thinking "wake-up" "food" or "play".
    Good luck :)

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  66. I haven't read all of the other comments, so this may have been discussed already... but is she still sleeping in your room? It may be time to move her into her nursery. My baby & I both started to sleep better when he was in his own space! Plus, you can let her cry it out for a few minutes at least (probably not too long at this age).

    Other than that, she may just be starving! Maybe up her oatmeal intake throughout the day to get her through the night?

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  67. I'm totally afraid of this happening to us, our 3 month old is a fabulous sleeper ... so far. Our 4 year old still sleeps all night and even naps for 2 hours each afternoon, so I'm hoping she follows in her Big sister's foot steps.

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  68. So my baby boy is four months too. This is what has helped us:

    At this age, babies need more calories because of how active they are. She may need more to eat during the day. Try adding an extra feeding in your daytime schedule. Because they get so distracted, they sometimes don't fill up their tanks completely because they want to play! This means they east less than what they did before. When Auden (my bebe boy) gets an extra feeding, he sleeps longer... sometimes this feeding is at 2:30AM because I didn't feed him during the afternoon the day before!
    Also, your milk (if you are breastfeeding still) may need more minerals. Babies at this age need more minerals in their diet. Formula babies often don't come across the four-month sleep disruption because the formula they switch to at this time compensates that. If you are breastfeeding, try eating more fruits and especially vegetables. Iron supplements for her could help as well.

    I'm currently working on getting my ND so nutrition/diet is my forte right now. Email me if you have any other questions!

    kginnie2@gmail.com

    Good luck! Hope these tips somewhat help!

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  69. Get her her own room, and let her figure out her sleep patterns by herself. She will wake up, see nothing around her, and fall right back asleep...
    Our twins have been sleeping from 8pm to 8am since they are 2 months old, so it works :)

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  70. A friend bought us that book before our son was born. Have you heard the audio version with Samuel L. Jackson reading it?

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  71. I would definitely move her to her own room! When we moved our son we put the nap nanny inside the crib so he got what that space was for and knew he was suppose to sleep there. After a few night if that he was good. Then when he started waking up in the middle of the night again I added a bowl of cereal to his bedtime routine (cereal around 7:30, then bath and bottle around 9:00) and now he sleeps all the way til 6 or 7. Good luck! I love the baby wise book too! As soon as you get her in her own room you will see a big difference!

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  72. OMG! Go the F*ck to sleep is great! I have loved your blog from the beginning of my pregnancy. I had my son in May and it's been a good 2-3 wake ups each night for both of us! I read your 2 month schedule that you posted and almost died of jealousy! My son sleeps in the nap nanny and I am sooo not looking forward to moving him to the crib. I have heard great things about Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy child...I think I'll read that when we get to sleep training time. Good Luck!

    new-momma-notes.blogspot.com

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  73. My little boy is almost 7 months and is doing the same thing. He just wants to move constantly and whine! Oh the whining! Not sure if it's teething or just growing but good lord! Luckily I work weird hours so sleep isn't to bad. Hope it gets better!

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  74. Would you ever try putting her in her own room sometime babies do better with space and I agree with the commenter that said try putting her down earlier. The more they sleep the more they sleep it's a catch 22. Try the Health sleep happy child book.

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  75. My daughter did the same thing at 4 months- their sleep cycles are only 45 mins at this age (the curse of the 45 min nap!) SO they wake up after 45 mins and want to practice all the fun things they are learning! I hate to say it but it lasted a little longer than I read or my ped told me- my daughter was still waking up during the night through 8 months! Then suddenly a switch flipped and then around 8.5 months she started sleeping through the night again and became a champ napper too! We honestly tried everything and she just was a night owl or "party doll" as I liked to call her. Eventually she went back to the perfect sleeper we got to know from 2-4 months old:) Hang in there..they eventually do sleep! Good luck.

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  76. I am the mom of two daughters. I used a combination of "Babywise" and Baby Whisperer" with both of them. They are 6 years apart :) Consistency is key i.e. eat, wake, sleep...My oldest slept through the night at 13 weeks (9 hours) and my 3 month old started sleeping through the night at 11 weeks (10 hours) Some may say that every baby is different and some just don't need the sleep, but it has been proven how much lack of sleep affects children and their sleep patterns for a life time. When you think of all the growing their bodies and brains are doing, it is no wonder!
    So, a typical nap should be 1.5 to 2 hours in length. My 3 month old has a schedule that looks like this
    7:30 awake and feed, play
    8:30-10:30 or 11 nap
    11:00 awake and feed, play
    12:00- 2:30 nap
    2:30 awake and feed, play
    3:30-5:30 nap
    6:00 feed and play
    7:00 down for the night
    10:00 I wake her and feed
    sleeps until 7:30 or 8.
    This is a rough schedule just to give you an idea on how much sleeping is going on...over the next month, she will transition again and around 4-5 months, I will cut the feeding at 10:00 at night and she will sleep 12 hours.
    The first 2-3 months are when you do the majority of sleep training, but it's never too late to start! I highly recommend reading the baby whisperer....remember wanting sleep for your baby is not selfish! It is giving them the gift of rest!

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  77. I highly recommend the book happiest baby on the block. Also a convertible Woombie. My daughter has slept 12 hours a night since about 2 months thanks to both. But she has also been in her own room and crib since the day she came home from the hospital which is something else I credit her champion sleep skills to. Hang in there!

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  78. both of my girls stoppped sleeping good when it was time for them to start eating more. either more bottles. or rice cereal. whatever it took. as they grow, they need more to eat though.
    you're doing a great job!!!! and, YES, sleep is super important!!

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  79. My husband's cousin got him the "Go the F*ck to Sleep" book when my LO was a couple months old! HILARIOUS!

    Good luck though...probably just regression. Sucks :(

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  80. Ugh! It could be a growth spurt- hopefully whatever it is will end soon. A couple of suggestions. 1) 'top her off' before you go to bed. If you go to bed significantly later than she does, offer her the breast (or bottle) for a feeding right before you go to sleep. This may keep her from waking up later in the night (full tummy longer) and if you keep things dark and sleep-like, she will hopefully not wake up to alert state. 2) Caffeine passes through breastmilk so if it's been a recent add-in or you've upped your intake, try eliminating it or only having it in the morning to see if that helps. It usually passes through a couple of hours after you drink it.

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  81. I have a 9 month old and we have gone through this. It's common and known as sleep regression and occurs at 4 and 6 and 8 months. Usually around the time they learn a new skill - crawling, rolling over, etc. It last a 7-14 days and you are a zombie for the entire time. The best thing for me was to realize that nothing that I did was going to help her go back to sleep, unless I played with her for about an hour and tried again. No bottle, no rocking, nothing but playing and wearing her little ass out. This time totally sucks and there is nothing to make it any better but sleep. You won't get any, though, until this little time passes.
    I will add that I started using teething tablets in her bottle - especially the one I gave her after I played with her for about an hour in the middle of the night - 2 tablets at a time. I think they helped.
    Keep venting, it helps.
    Also, solids will help this when you introduce them. Filling them up helps them sleep as well.

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  82. your little girl is adorable! hope things improve soon!

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  83. My daughter was a champ of a sleeper until around 6 months. I put up with the nonsense for about 5 months until I whined to her doctor about it...after a thorough exam we figured out that she had GERD, or baby heartburn. Quick trip to the pharmacy for some Zantac= problem solved! Hopefully yours is an easy fix or a phase :)

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  84. BLESS YOUR HEART! I could not imagine, luckily, I have another 5 months to go until I have to experience the terrors of sleeping patterns and actually getting any sleep for myself. I can feel your pain though, seriously, my husband's 4 year old is a terror when it comes to sleeping and sleeping patterns while she is with us. She will not sleep in a bed by herself and constantly wakes if you try to move her while she is asleep. It's so exhausting, not to mention she is almost the same size as me and weighs like 60lbs for a 4yr old. She is a big girl, and kicks like crazy. I understand, but not fully, thank goodness I have 5 more months to try to fully prepare myself for this.... xo, praying it gets better!

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  85. Yep, put her down earlier, like other commenters said.
    www.babywisemom.com might be helpful. See especially http://www.babywisemom.com/search/label/4%20month%20sleep%20problems

    R.

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  86. My son is 4.5 mo and until recently was not a fan of sleep either- hang in there! Now he is doing better but we had to really work at it. Some things that helped him: cluster feed in the evening- even if he isn't showing signs of hunger we continue to offer a bottle and he usually eats it (sometimes up to 15oz in just a couple of hours), dark room, fan going, noise machine, footed pjs, and he sleeps on his belly (I know that's a big faux pax but its the only way he sleeps, when he is on his back he startles himself awake constantly; and when he is on his belly he uses his fingers to self-soothe), naps and nights in his crib- we were co-sleeping for 3 mos and neither of us got very restful sleep. It was hard for me to detach and put him in his own room in the crib but he sleeps so much better there!

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  87. I have an almost 5-month old. The more she sleep during the day, the better she sleeps at night! And we swaddle over here too... and when she started escaping last month I purchased one of these babies::
    http://peaweebaby.com/SwaddleBuddy-Accessory/SwaddleBuddy
    BEST THING EVER!
    She goes to bed about 7:30pm and wakes around 2-3am to nurse and then goes back down until about 7am. We haven't started solids yet, so she still needs a mid-night snack!

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  88. Teething! I follow you in here and on IG, my son is a few days older than Harper and he did this exact same thing when he was teething. It will pass :) He did it for about a week or two, try teething tablets, they really help with the restlessness.

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  89. Ahhh....went through this several times with my lil one. After copious venti spills, reading, and calls to my doc we deduced that it was a major milestone and she needed sleep training. It was really hard but if you can stick with it for 4 days...the rule of thumb...they grow out of it and take the hint. We had to sleep train 3-4 times in her first 12 months. I sympathize.

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  90. the same thing happened to my daughter at 5 months! She's 6 1/2 months now and it's not gotten any better. :(

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  91. I have a 2 year old daughter who for the most part has been an awesome sleeper since day 1. But we have also had our share of rough nights. My friend told me about this book called "Wonder Weeks". It basically talks about certain weeks that babies get thrown off by something that their little brains are working on like learning to sit up or roll over. Usually once they master whatever it is they are working on they settle back into a routine. It may not be exactly the same as before but should be more manageable. Almost everytime I thought to myself, I wonder what is the matter with my daughter, I would google Wonder Weeks and there would be something for that week that would line right up with what she was going through. It is all about phases. Once you get through this one it will be on to the next. :)

    Love your blog !

    Katy

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  92. I have a baby girl that was born Feb. 19 and she is going through the same 1am wake up. You should check out the wonderweeks app for iphone or its also a book. Its amazing because when something seems different i check it out and it says whether or not she is going through a mental leap which is whats happening now. I just remind myself it will get better and it always does. Love that go the f*ck to sleep book!

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  93. I haven't read all the advice above, so I might be repeating but I saw you mention her in her pac n play and it sounded like she might still be in your room. If so, I would definitely move her into her own room. It helped with our 3 kiddos for them to wake up and not see us or anyone for that matter. We also use a fan/sound machine and keep the room pretty dark. That's not to say that kiddos don't go through phases :) Good Luck!
    Mother of 3

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  94. Cry it out. Harsh, but works. My littles have slept from 6:30 pm until 7am. Not kidding. They are now 7 and 5.

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  95. I am so sorry to hear that you are having trouble and I hope it gets better. I have no advice because I am not a mommy yet, but I will be in September! I am just curious about your nap nanny..do you use it only during the day or at night as well? I just got one and would love to know when it is most helpful. If anyone else has advice or info about the nap nanny I would greatly appreciate it! Love your blog by the way! I check it weekly for updates! (:

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  96. Again, healthy sleep habits, happy child. I swear by it. An earlier bedtime than what you are doing now is essential. It's not a strict CIO book either, if your baby needs fed at night or needs anything, the author suggests meeting that need. So it's not heartless by any means. We moved my daughters bedtime up and it was like magic.

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  97. I hear ya girl! My baby boy is 3 months old now and he has his good and bad nights. It's nice to know we are not alone. I love how you document through pictures like I do. Your post made me laugh (except for the Starbucks spill). Ok maybe a little. Because I have done that very thing!! Hang in there!

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  98. out some cereal in that bottle :)

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  99. ahhh the dreaded 5 month sleep regression! that was one of the roughest parts of my daughters early life! (she is now 17 months) rest assured, it will pass! it usually only lasts about 2-3 weeks, (if your me, it lasts over a month though) just make sure you keep her on the same schedule and routine! they say it happens because babies at that age are able to process their days, so they think about the days events, and their new ability to move around so much that they just dont sleep. after reading that, i tried my hardest to make our daughters day as borring as humanly possible, thinking that if she didnt have much to think about, she would sleep. it didnt work and my lack of movement that day, just caused me to be even more tired and irritated when she woke me up 5 times a night! but, it passes! and she went right back to sleeping like a champ. so just hang in there and possibly invest in a reusable-screw on lid-coffee cup ;)

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  100. maybe try cereal in her bedtime bottle?

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  101. When we put baby girl in her own room at 3 months, that's when we ALL started sleeping peacefully again. So, if she's not in her own room, maybe try that....

    AT 23 months, old, we STILL have rough nights. Just when you think you've got things down and figured out, something changes. It's a constant learning process.

    Does she have a lovey? Our little one is super attached to a stuffed lamb. Loving on it is how she soothes her self back to sleep. Plus, Lamby goes EVERYWHERE with us and is with her at ALL times.

    I agree with other posts....maybe try doing your night routine a tad earlier.

    I know it's hard and gets frustrating. But, parents are resilient and it's amazing how well we can function on less sleep than we're ever used to getting. Hang in there. Tell yourself, "It's not going to be like this forever..." You'll get through this and so will she!!!!!

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  102. Hiya

    I love your blog but never seem to have time to read, I am currently doing a marathon catch-up!

    I read a few other comments and I can totally recommend the 'Healthy Sleep Habits Happy child' book, while the methods used may not suit you the first section is all about sleep & the bran and I found that really interesting! My little one (who is now 29 mths!) was a star sleeper, I am now expecting again and really nervous about how this one will sleep!

    I don't really have any suggestions apart from I just read your other post about you started solids at 4 months - did she start waking when you started this? maybe that (randomly) has something to do with it! Also, is she still sleeping in your room? I moved our little one to her own room at 10 weeks and boy did we sleep SO MUCH BETTER and a week later she started sleeping 12-13 hours per night and hasn't stopped! (apart from the odd 'teething' nights or sickness nights) babies can be so noisey can't they! I remember Eden kicking her legs, snorting and grunting, I am such a light sleeper thats when we decided she had to go into her own room!

    Good luck, keep us informed on how it goes, I am sure you will find something that works for you all.

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  103. We had our first day with no sleep today.. I hope this isn't the start of something!! good LUCK! How do you like the sleep sack? Landon is only 2 months, but he gets startled without being swaddled.

    LOVe your blog!

    http://scaifebabywatch.blogspot.com/

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  104. just started reading! we have a 10 month old, and he did the exact same thing around 4 months. i was told that they are starting to learn tricks and it wakes them up. also that we needed to move him to his room. made me sad but what a big difference it made. everyone sleeps better...well until teething hit. go get that teething necklace before that starts! good luck to you :)

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  105. Your little girl is so cute! I was all "I never want kids" but now my ovaries are screaming at me.

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  106. ive read that its fairly common for babies to sleep good and then all of a sudden start doing what your little girl is doing, it sucks lol but hopefully it wont be to much longer until she sleeps like a champ again! Good luck!

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  107. ive read that its fairly common for little ones to sleep good and then out of no where start waking up in the middle of the night, very frustrating lol but hopefully it will pass soon for you guys! Best of luck!

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  108. 4 month sleep regressoin. Read the book Wonder Weeks- it looks at the developmental changes that affect sleep (almost every week). I would reasearch any book that encourage CIO method-psychology today has a great quick read about it. Hang in there.

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  109. When my baby was born, sleeping through the night was an impossible dream.

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  110. It is so soothing to know I AM NOT ALONE!! LOL my 11 month old baby boy does the exact same thing since he was about 5, 6 mths .. the lifting of the legs and slamming on the mattress was like the sound of death to me when I had only a few hours to sleep before time for work. Working a full time job on 2 3 hours of sleep has become my expertise! :) Loved your blog! Thank you! NT

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  111. Aaah its great to know that I'm not alone! My Daughter is 15 weeks and slept through 7.30 - 6.30 from 5 weeks. So at 11 weeks we moved her into her own room and we've not had a full night's sleep since. We have since moved her back into our room thinking this was the problem, however she's still waking anytime from 1AM onwards. Tonight I got up a total of 17 times to replace her dummy, I've now given up and we're both downstairs in front of Baby TV. I don't want her to keep her Daddy awake as he works long hours. I can't function properly anymore...

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  112. please tell me they get out of this stage. i have had an amazing sleeper from 10.30pm-7am every night. suddenley he is waking every 1-2 hours and playing. he is not even crying. we find him in all kinds of positions (only cries when gets his head stuck in the cot bars). please please tell me they get over this. did you find anything to help? i know this is an old entry. but desperate sleep deprived parent here! though he doesnt cry his 'playing' wakes is up over and over.

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  113. At around that same age my little one was going through the same issue, out of luck i noticed that the days in which his break between bottle and bed was longer he would sleep the night. I found that not only would he be hungrier from the workout his stomach had whilst he slept, there was also no way that i'd be able to just put him back to sleep... I hope that helps!!!
    Hayley Blake, yes it's just a stage as long as you don't break habits... When they learn to move they even do it in their sleep, but where a lot of people go wrong is getting up and almost acting like it's a normal day (in the middle of the night) keep lights dim, no toys, everything just soft and mellow as if it's a dream including your voice and eventually they get back into routine... unfortunately i still find my little one in all sorts of positions hehehehe but he has resumed his sleeping pattern, they will go in and out of sleeping routines throughout toddlerhood, due to teething, illnesses, temperature and excitement... I personally never had the heart to just leave him crying himself to sleep, but on those really difficult days i would leave him 5 mins at a time (if he was upset) and then return and remind him that it's time to sleep... even if it took a few tries!!! eventually when he was quiet, i'd give him 15 mins and go back to lay him properly, by then he'd be asleep :)

    Nikki, i hope you are doing well, i see your post is a few months old and you probably already moved on from that problem, but if not, then my suggestion would be that you place her back into her room and stick with it, make sure temperature is good, nightlight etc but a really good way to wean her in is to spend 30 mins in that room with her before bed, going through the sort of bed time routine you want as she ages, story, cuddles, songs, kisses and cuddles.

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  114. We were in the same boat. We lasted for several months but when our son was like 8 and a half months old and was waking up every hour to 2 hours we just couldn't take it and we used the self soothing method from a lifesaving book called "Every child can learn to sleep". It's not available for sale cause it is our of print and it's very difficult to find but there are a few similar books.
    My wife wrote an article about our experiences with it: Every child can learn to sleep.

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